LGBTQ+ Therapy
In New York City

Some of what brings LGBTQ+ people to therapy has nothing to do with being LGBTQ+. Anxiety is anxiety. A relationship coming apart is a relationship coming apart.

What's different is not having to explain the background. Not having to decide, in the first session, how much context a therapist needs before the actual conversation can start.

Who I work with

I work with LGBTQ+ adults across the range of what brings anyone to therapy — anxiety, depression, relationships, work, family, grief, questions of meaning.

I also work with a lot of lawyers and finance professionals, and there’s a particular version of this that comes up often: being queer in an environment that is formally inclusive and informally something else. The calculation about how much of yourself to bring into a room. The exhaustion of managing that calculation for years without naming it as work.

What clients bring

Anxiety and depression — with or without a connection to identity
Coming out — at any age, and to anyone, including yourself
Relationships — dating, partnership, non-monogamy, and the specific difficulties of each
Family — estrangement, partial acceptance, the relatives who are fine with it as long as it isn’t discussed
Work — being out, not being out, and the cost of either
Gender identity — exploration, transition, and living in a body that hasn’t always felt like yours
Internalised shame — the parts that didn’t disappear when the outside world got easier
Grief and loss — including losses that others didn’t treat as significant

What affirming actually means here

Plenty of therapists describe themselves as LGBTQ-friendly. In practice that can mean anything from deep familiarity to a willingness to be educated by you as you go. What I mean by it: your identity isn’t the presenting problem unless you say it is. I’m not going to route difficulties back through it, and I’m not going to avoid it either when it’s relevant. If you want to talk about a difficult mother, we’ll talk about your mother.

I’m a married, gay therapist with children myself, which is context rather than credential, but it does mean some things won’t need explaining.

How the work goes

Some of this work is about identity. Much of it isn’t. Both are fine. I draw on relational psychodynamic work to understand the patterns underneath, how you learned to read a room, what you learned to hide, what that cost, alongside CBT and DBT for practical skills where those are useful.

Practical details

In person: 125 East 23rd Street, Manhattan
Telehealth: across New York State
Fee: $250 per session
Out-of-network: documentation provided for reimbursement
Complete confidentiality

Start with a conversation

Fifteen minutes, for both of us to explore fit.

LGBTQ+ Therapy In New York City

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